A suicide prevention intitiative
17-01-2020 05:10 PM
'How can I challenge the way I think of myself '
Positive self-talk makes you feel good about yourself and the things that are going on in our life.
It's like having an optimistic voice in your head that always looks on the bright side. ... Negative self-talk tends to make people pretty miserable and can even have an impact on their mental health difficulties and also Physical problems
And negativity plays a whole lots around us including ourselves , our family , our children and even our pets
‘what tips, tricks or thoughts do people have on how to challenge the way we think about ourselves?’
18-01-2020 08:33 AM
Hey @Shaz51. I'm often my harshest critic, as I think many of us can be! The negativity inside me can be very strong and loud sometimes.
I like those points above about listening to and challenging your self-talk. Something I've been working at is identifying when my negative self-talk is in full swing. I tend to get flooded with always, never, everything, nothing, should. I'll say things to myself like - I always stuff things up. I'll never be able to do this. Nothing ever goes to plan. I should be able to do this. Everything is going wrong.
I'm learning that those words are big flags for me and signs that it is worth stopping and trying to look beyond them. I can try to challenge them by finding evidence that counters them, and realising that, while it genuinely feels that way at times, rarely is it actually true or real. (Lots easier said than done though!)
18-01-2020 09:18 AM
I struggle with the whole power of positive thinking thing, but wholeheartedly agree it's important to challenge the negative stuff we tell ourselves. It's often way out of proportion. I agree @Shaz51 about talking back even if it's as simple as saying to the negative voice - hey, ease up, I'm doing the best I can.
Can really identify with the black and white thinking @CheerBear ... I try and narrow my focus from always and never to today, or right now e.g. today I didn't handle something well versus I never do and I never will.
One thing that helps, though I am yet to really form the habit, is to reflect at the end of the day and see if you can find things that went ok, or even well. Humans have a negativity bias,and it's good to balance that out a bit.
19-01-2020 06:36 AM
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23-01-2020 01:27 PM
I find this so hard - my brain wants to tell me that I'm stupid or silly for feeling low and for not being able to do as much as others when I feel like that. Its really annoying to not believe or judge myself for seeming lazy and hopeless and I feel a bit ashamed when I think about it through others eyes. Does anyone deal with the same thing? I like the idea of reframing in the pic you shared Shaz51
23-01-2020 02:49 PM
remember to put a @ in front of members names so they can receive your email message
we need to be kind to ourselves too especially when we are feeling unwell
and i find writting a list of things that you want to get done
you don`t need to do them all , even one or 2 of them is a step forward
and to say " I did do something today "
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