A suicide prevention intitiative
01-02-2020 02:23 PM
I am a survivor of suicide - I have lost my son and my cousin to suicide and I think neither of them had any real conception of how other people loved them and how valued they were
No doubt they were in a lot of pain - and this I do understand - when I think of my son I think that he was really at the end of his tether and maybe there was no other choice for him
But I was devastated - I learned after he died that there can sometimes be one family member that will take on the whole grief load for the family - when I was told this I was confused but through the years I have learned a great deal and yes - I did this and maybe this was one reason my son died - the rest of the family didn't understand Mental Illness and they didn't know the details of the distressed life he lived and didn't want to hear anything like that - they didn't want to know
But I did - and alone I did my best for him - I stuck with him until the end - and my minister told me that our community couldn't help - now I know that it takes a village
In my son's case a city wasn't enough
But the truth was - he was never a burden to me. I loved him and cared about him and to this day I still do - it was unbelievably painful for a long time
About my cousin - I really don't know but I do know how terrible it was for his parents. They were there for me when my son died and I was there for them when their son died
And they were both loved - they were not a burden - and this is still true
01-02-2020 06:54 PM
@Dec I was thinking early today about the strength of love. How it crosses forbidden territory.
Colour, money, power,fame.
Reading your post I realised even death does not break that strength. It’s not something easily put into words, it’s felt, deeply felt, and forever. And it’s a gift I think.
Sending some love to you tonight @Dec ❤️❤️❤️
02-02-2020 11:53 AM
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