Sometimes guilt stems from situations where although you did the best you could at the time, things go badly. I agree that talking with a trusted (and hopefully non-judgemental) person can help. Sometimes they can understand if they have had a comparable experience. Regardless, I find that it helps to know that there are other people out there who have done similar things and felt a similar way.
It's not easy but when I can I try and focus on the present and if there's anything I can do to make amends; and if not trying to do my best in the now.
Guilt is a big one for me @Shaz51 and @frog, along with shame. They can both be quite consuming at times and trip me up often.
Owning up to mistakes and apologising can help as you both mentioned. I agree that talking about it and realising that others are likely to have experienced similar things and feelings can also help.
Perhaps what I find most helpful when it comes to guilt is to try to use the experience as an opportunity for learning and growth. Some of my most significant realisations or developments have come from some huge guilt-filled experiences. Often tough times highlight my values and what is important to me (if I allow myself to sit with the discomfort that self-reflection can cause!). From there I can go forward trying to make different choices and do better next time (that's the idea anyway haha!).
Hi all. I definitely find shame a much heavier thing to contend with. Just this sense of embaressment when I have a depressive episode. I remind myself that it is a journey and self forgivenesss is a really important bit of regaining strength
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